You often say, "I would give, but only to the deserving." The trees in your orchard say not so, nor the flocks in your pasture. They give that they may live, for to withhold is to perish.
From The Prophet on Giving, Khalil Gibran
We practice, in the Essential Experience Workshop, delivering what we call … Continue Reading ››
I find it hard to write about anything but the election, even now, a bit more than a month since it ended. I still feel, in waves, my sadness, my fear and my anger. My own experience was that, right after the election, we had the workshop. For me, that meant that, whatever I was … Continue Reading ››
On the first day of classes this fall, I asked the students in the Moral Foundations course I teach to introduce themselves. In addition to announcing their year and their major, I asked them to say just one sentence about the elections that our country has been in engaged in for many months. Most of … Continue Reading ››
I did a one day graduate workshop on friendship a few years ago. One of the bits of feedback I got was that people were interested in more attention on how to sustain the friendships they had. As a result, I organized a mini-workshop on that topic for the last Gathering of the EE graduate … Continue Reading ››
One of the main contributions of Gestalt psychology to our understanding of human experience is the appreciation of how what we experience always is a “figure” standing out from a “ground” or background. We have all seen the famous duck-rabbit picture, or the one of the young woman and the old woman, where one “figure” … Continue Reading ››
We have significant and gratifying experience in the EE workshop communicating across the boundaries that often separate us. Younger people and older people get to see each other as people. People with money or status and people with little of either also get to see each other as people. Barriers of race, gender, education and … Continue Reading ››
Most every Sunday at the workshop, I find myself talking to the Team about finishing. The immediate challenge, of course, is for us to “finish” the workshop. This doesn’t mean just being present when it ends. That, of course, is inevitable. The idea is for us to complete our work.
I acknowledge that I am speaking … Continue Reading ››
When we try to be “real” with others – “authentic,” we might say more formally – we mean many things. We often mean simply to share how we feel or what we want rather than to hide it. We say that our feelings are hurt, that we are angry, that we want more attention, or … Continue Reading ››
I keep learning from my wife, even after almost 40 years together. We realized quite a while ago that we tend to make different assumptions when we encounter people and that these assumptions shape our experience with them. I have, for years, been experimenting with making her assumptions at times and I have been encouraging … Continue Reading ››
I often have the experience with clients, or participants in the workshop, that they “already know” pretty much anything relevant to a situation they are struggling with. “I’ve looked at this from every angle,” they tell me. They can even demonstrate their knowledge, raising every consideration for why they should or shouldn’t leave their marriage, … Continue Reading ››